I will get to the stories we make up about ourselves but this here is about what we put on other people. Love for you to watch and as always I love to hear what YOU have to say xo jen
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3mToDioQZY4]
I will get to the stories we make up about ourselves but this here is about what we put on other people. Love for you to watch and as always I love to hear what YOU have to say xo jen
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3mToDioQZY4]
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A very thoughtful monologue that came across as a dialogue because I felt included in it. In listening to you, I realized (again) how many relationship ‘issues’ are self-created in our ego-need to ‘put things’ on others. You’re so right …. it isn’t fair.
From another work in progress,
much love,
nancy
wow.. I didn’t hear anything past that you’re wanting to start a family!!
I support you being a clear vessel for the little one to nestle into.. and your small cup of coffee, cracked me up!! Stories?? it’s all about the stories, so I keep most of them filled with joy.. this morning tho, I was playing with a story of smashing someone’s head into the dirt because he had hurt one of my girls.. so, as I looked into your eyes (thank you for the video) I got back in touch with my soft side and cried……
I needed to hear this! I love how the message always finds you when you’re ready for it. Thank you Jen!
Love it!
Love the vlogging. So beautiful inside and out!! Love your genuine words and fearless honesty!! Hope to see your beauty in person next week! Love u!
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Treating people like an ‘unreal other’ — a two dimensional person that is just a projection of ourselves — brings suffering to both; you and the other person…
This is a hard one. I don’t want to admit it, but I do this to my husband. When we met we were both going through so much and I believe I looked to him as my salvation from the bad choices I had been making thus far. Now, 10 years later and I find myself constantly saying to him that I am not happy with who he has become and where our relationship has gone and that he promised to be a certain type of person and didn’t live up to it. I believe as I am getting to know myself better, that maybe he didn’t promise that. Maybe I put it on him. Not to say he hasn’t allowed his insecurities and issues to color his moods and in turn our marriage, but I can’t truly remember him ever saying the things I have told him he said. Maybe I did put him on a pedestal because he was the first man who didn’t treat me like shit so I worked his story into my story and made it into something else. Like I said, I hate to admit it but that feels like a pretty big truth to me.