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What Gets Us Into Trouble.

October 25, 2014

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By Jen Pastiloff.

“It’s the things that we know FOR SURE, that just ain’t so, that get us into trouble.” ~ Wayne Dyer.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer is one of my greatest teachers.

Back when I was still waitressing and utterly miserable- I would get off my shift, and I would go, stinking of food and self-loathing, on these walks by the Pacific Ocean here in Santa Monica. I had Wayne Dyer on my iPod (after years of my mom’s insistence, and my adamant refusal, to read his books) and I’d walk and walk and walk and listen to the same recordings over and over again as I did my goofy speed walk with my dorky arm swing. I’d go faster and faster, as if I could end up eventually leaving myself behind.

Wayne was my company.

I memorized his lectures on those sunset walks. I knew when I walked by a certain palm tree, Wayne would be saying, “Don’t Die With Your Music Still in You,” and when I got to the incline that led down to the beach, he’d be talking about squeezing an orange.
He said when you squeeze an orange, orange juice comes out. So, we are squeezed, by life, by traffic, stress, whatever it is, if vitriol comes out, if anger and meanness and ugliness come out, then that is what was inside of us. No matter who does the squeezing. Like orange juice. Doesn’t matter who squeezes it, it will still be orange juice. I thought a lot about what was inside of me and how I blamed a lot of other people/things for what was being squeezed out.

I had to walk the same route, listen to the same lectures. These were the things I could count on. Palm tree, sky, clouds, sun setting, orange, squeezing, don’t die with your music still in you, park bench. Continue Reading…

Guest Posts, healing, Wayne Dyer

Tapestry. Guest Post by Sommer Wayne Dyer.

October 18, 2012

The following guest post is by my good friend Sommer Wayne Dyer, daughter of my beloved teacher Wayne Dyer. I am honored that Sommer will be assiting me in Maui for my Manifestation Retreat in Februray 2013! Yesterday, she sent me a text of what she had been working on for my blog. (Much like her dad, she writes everything by hand. A foreign concept to me.) She sent me the following picture via text message and I shared it on my Facebook because I thought it was utterly brilliant.

F*ck the margins! I loved the idea so much that I used it as a theme in my yoga class last night. She then texted me, “Who decided that we need margins anyway?”

Sommer is a gifted writer and yogi. It is my great pleasure to introduce her to my tribe. Hers is a story that many of us can relate to. Be it addiction or struggles with weight or self-love, Sommer’s piece will most likely resonate with some “Aha moment.” I won’t share too much of it. That’s her job, her work. Plus, you can come with us to Maui and her hear give a lecture or take her class. Here is however, a sneak peak…

Tapestry by Sommer Wayne Dyer.

I am where I am today in a brand new way.

And it keeps getting better, this road that I travel.

I am so grateful for the feelings I am now experiencing.

I thought I had depleted all the good feelings.

I was wrong.

I am humbled by mistakes.

They are mine and I stand by them.

They stood by me, my mistakes did, for entirely too long.

For quite a while I let my mistakes and choices define me.

I was always looking to feel something else, to want more,

to be different than the way I am.

For years I was altering the person who is naturally me.

I’m not sure why since everything I’ve been looking for was already inside: the soul that is me. 

But life blocks it sometimes.

Sometimes things wound us in a way that we are forever different.

Sometimes I just wanted to be numb.

So I made sure of that.

But those years are in my past, my “story”.

Now I’m finding the ride no longer bumpy, but noticeably smoother.

I am in a space that I want to be in.

I am humbled.

Issues with the body, the vessel I reside in.

Injuries and medications.

And the weight and the way I allowed my appearance to define me.

The weight lost, the weight gained. Either way it’s a new perspective.

I don’t care what anyone says.

It’s mental and emotional and physiological and biological and physical.

And it’s all rational to my bewildered mind.

It can be anything: money, body image, weight loss, exercise, sex, drugs, gambling, any obsessions, goals, or lifelong dreams.

Anything that consumes you completely that you think of daily, sometimes constantly.

An urge you must accomplish.

But it’s also ethereal. It exists, yet no one knows.

It can consume your waking moments

And no one knows.

It causes moods to shift from the lowest dwelling imaginable to the most elevated levels of peace.

It’s an ally. Trust me. This insatiable urge inside of me, for whatever I was doing at the time, always got done.

And so it continues.

But from completely different motivators I am taking action.

I am improving.

I am not only losing weight. I am losing fear and doubt. I am gaining strength and passion. But I have no regrets or shame.

Everything I’ve gone through had to happen just as it did for me to be here now.

And right now, I’m loving it.

I like myself enough to listen to my intuitions.

I trust myself enough to know that I can do things gracefully.

I love myself enough to be careful with myself.

I want to write. I am ready to share what I saw on the roads and trails where I meandered.

I am ready to share a story about what I’ve put myself through.

It’s unbelievable that I sit here. My choices have illustrated this tapestry of my life that is tragic, yet beautiful.

A struggle we all have in this life, and one that we ultimately overcome.

When that struggle becomes your purpose you know that you are your own ally.

Make something big out of it.

Whatever it is that nags you or pulls your heartstrings every so often.

Let that purpose become your passion.

And the passion I have for what I feel is my purpose is palpable.

I’ve gone through a lot of shit to get where I am today. I survived a lot. So yeah it drives me.

So I no longer sit with a pen and a heavy heart and wilted soul. I write with pride and amusement. I write with integrity.

Even though my insanity was blissful in a way.

I had long ago abandoned myself in search for someone else.

But the person I was searching for was the potential me.

The person I knew that I could be and one day I would be.

And that day has come.

The time has arrived.

I choose to mindfully do my best.

I choose me.

Therefore I am free.

I am that I am.

Sommer and her beautiful mom.

Sommer Wayne Dyer 10-18-12

***To join Sommer and I (and special guests) in Maui please put a deposit down by clicking here. We will be at Lumeria the new Luxury retreat center with The Travel Yogi. My retreats have been selling out very fast and we only have a few spots left so book soon. This will be a life changing retreat. Email jen@thetravelyogi.com for more info. http://thetravelyogi.com/adventures/hawaii/

Manifestation Workshops, manifesting, Owning It!, Wayne Dyer

What’s Your Miami?

October 8, 2012

What’s Your Miami?

Somewhere between Albuquerque and Flagstaff, headed back to Los Angeles. That’s where I am right now. I get my best writing done on airplanes. Flying back after a weekend of workshops in Miami. It was my first time in Miami, which seems slightly unbelievable being that I am a Jew from Jersey, a fact I attribute our moving to California and then back again like gypsies in search of sustainable weather or a father. Nonetheless, it was my first time and I felt more like I was visiting from some distant country (or Kansas) than L.A. How in awe I was at the balmy weather, at the sky, the view from my friend’s condo, water on all sides. The sky seemed lower, close enough to me that I could reach up and grab a fistful of air if I wanted to. The clouds with their secrets stuffed inside of them and if we waited long enough with our iPhone cameras and Instagrams we could catch the secrets exploding into a million particles of light, raindrops, streaks of purple and pink, golden ambers, all the things that make people click “like” or “share” on a photo.

The moodiness of the place felt like home to me. I recognized how easy it was to one moment be bright and yellow and the next, a misty grey where you couldn’t see the gaudy cruise ships or the lights any longer, just a fine haze with all its edges lost.

And it was hot. It was a whole new world for me, only having been to Florida one other time, last summer, on a road trip with my sister, her husband, their new puppy Timber, and my two nephews. My oldest nephew Blaise has a rare genetic disorder called Prader Will Syndrome and his doctor is in Gainesville at the Univeristy (people drive and fly from all over the world to see her.) We were taking a weekend mini-holiday at a small coastal town a couple hours away from the University called Flagler Beach before heading to Dr. Miller on the way back to Georgia where they live. I sat wedged in the back between Maddock (who hit me almost the whole time) and Blaise and Timber.

It was a long long ride.

The beach town had been cute. It was so different than California and I spent most of the weekend tickled by this difference. The water is so warm! So different than California! It’s so calm! It’s so humid! As if I hadn’t grown up in New Jersey and spent summers down the shore. As if I had never experienced this type of weather or the Atlantic Ocean.

Its easy to forget that our lives are not it. That it doesn’t stop and end with our town, our street, our weather, our children, our problems. I forgot that there was weather outside of California. I forgot that there was another ocean besides the Pacific. I forgot that palm trees actually grew places and weren’t simply placed there as an aesthetic gem. Miami is very different from that sleepy town last summer although I adored that sleepy town and the little local fish restaurant we went to where we ate off paper plates and drank beer. I was also with my nephews and I wouldn’t trade anything for Blaise saying Ocean, Jenny, ocean? And then sitting at the shoreline with him on my lap as he grips me for dear life with that combination of terror and delight children love to feel.

My Miami workshops at Green Monkey went really well.

It was a big step for me. Being flown to a place where I have no “following” per se, to do my thing.

What if no one came? and all the other usual fear based thoughts fought their way to the top of the food chain of my mind.

They came. They loved it.

The biggest deal for me really was the fact that Skye and Sommer Dyer came to my Friday night Karaoke Yoga workshop. They are 2 of the daughters of my beloved teacher, Dr. Wayne Dyer. (Sommer is the one who will be assisting me at my Maui retreat in February and if I can manifest Wayne coming over to talk to my group then I will have accomplished one of my greatest dreams.) Wayne truly changed my life and anyone who has spent any time with me, especially in my classes or workshops, knows how often I quote him and speak of him. I have become friends with his daughters and they drove 1.5 hours to come. It was a little unnerving at first because I quote him all the time so I felt nervous and self-conscious.

That lasted a few moments. Once I start, I get channeled in a way that I don’t pretend to understand and I forget all about who is in the room. My intention becomes clear. Skye is a beautiful singer (if you have ever heard Wayne speak or seen his PBS specials, you have heard her sing.) She sang for us in savasana and it was like one of those moments when you are at once outside of yourself and yet so utterly present at that it is almost unbearable, the surge of emotion a reminder that you are very much alive despite moments of depression or feeling lost or confused or any of the other ways in which we go slack. Its like the feeling you have when you get married, and, I am guessing, when you give birth. Is this my life? and Yes, this is my life! joining in such a way that time stops, your breath catches and you feel solid and essential to the world like soil air.

The workshop on Saturday was lovely as well. I felt really proud of myself. I have taught in Philly and NYC and NJ and sold the workshops out, but Miami? I had one friend there and no students or tribe. Yet, I did it.

I. Did. It.

And they showed up.

One woman, the beautiful Sue, flew from Michigan to take my workshops in Miami. That was a huge moment for me, to acknowledge that. She follows me on Facebook and reads my blog and from that she flew all the way to another state to attend my workshop. I am owning that. I think it can be too easy (for me at least) to own the things about me I don’t like or what I have done “wrong” but when it comes to just being with the fact that someone is moved by me, or thanking me, well, that is as difficult as telling someone just who you are and having them look in your eyes for 3 minutes without speaking or moving. And yes, we do that in my workshops.

So I am looking in the proverbial eye of it all and accepting it. Owning it. Taking responsibility for what I did. This is not a random thing. There is a cause and effect.

I manifested this. By imagining it first and then working toward it, all the while staying true to myself and being authentic.

I wonder how often we don’t realize our own gifts? Or else we do, and we feel we somehow don’t deserve to own them?

I am on a plane heading back and feeling good. I will be back. I feel calmer than I have in a while, less anxiety, more present. Perhaps it has to do with all the travel I had over the last few months and I can sit here and say Wow from 30,000 feet at all I have accomplished. Perhaps because there is no wi-fi in flight. Perhaps its hormones? Who knows? Who cares.

It is terrifying going into the unknown. It really is. I get it.

I was told before going how Miami loved its physical practice, its handstands, its power yoga. Its not that I don’t do that stuff, I do. I slip it in, I use it as a causeway. But it is not what you think of when you think of a Jen Pastiloff class or workshop.

I went anyway and I stayed true to who I was and what I do and they came and they loved it. If I had let my fear sway me I would have cancelled, I would have shirked, I would have changed myself to fit in with the status quo.

I leave you with this as we are about to land and I have to shut my computer:

Where are you playing small?

What is your “Miami?”

What are you scared of?

What are you willing to do anyway?

Where can you go that you have never been before, both literally and in your imagination?

Simplereminders.com are incredible. Check them out. Thanks for this poster of me in Miami!

Looking into someone’s eyes is powerful business. I am ______.

Here are 3 emails I got today from 3 people who attended my Miami workshops: 

Dear Jen, I don’t think I can thank you enough Jen. I would have never thought taking a karaoke yoga workshop could have changed my life that way that it is. I was very hesitant to sign up for the workshop. It was something that initially I didn’t think I would have enjoyed it as much as I did. I have so many things to be proud of but always searched for the approval of the people that wronged me and never believed in me. I always belittled my accomplishments. I always made excuses. Now I am finally starting to feel free from them. I value myself so much more than I did before I walked into that workshop on Friday. I put on my post-it: LOVE. When I first put it on my post-it I was thinking of manifesting an awesome man to love and love me back. I had it all wrong though. I want to manifest love for myself. Thank you for inspiring me to be my true self without the fear. I wish you nothing but the best! You are a God send and it has been such a blessing for me to have had the chance to meet such an amazing person!

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Hey Jen ~THANK YOU for yesterday. It was beyond what I thought it would be and it was life transforming, truly. I feel like I woke up today with fresh eyes and a better outlook. It was astonishing to me how much you and the workshop resonated with me. I too have battled depression, its always nice to know I’m not alone. I too ALWAYS say “i’m tired.” Not today! I have literally talked myself out of it, manifesting an abundance of energy 🙂 Yesterday, I posted on the Green Monkey wall ‘happiness.’ Thats what I am manifesting. And our ‘HI-YA!!!’ bit, I was kicking the shit out of fear! Ha! Thank you!

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Hi Jennifer, I cannot stop thinking about the workshop you did on Saturday at Green Monkey. It’s amazing how we weren’t supposed to participate but by a twist of fate were able to. There are no coincidences in life. I loved every minute of it. When we were doing the forgiveness/breathing exercise you came up to me and gently placed your hand on my back as if to say “it’s ok to let go”.

I was in the process of forgiving myself for not being the person who I thought I would be in my life right now.

 

Inspiration, MindBodyGreen, Wayne Dyer

How May I Serve?

August 26, 2012

My latest on MindBodyGreen is near and dear to me. Ask yourself “How May I Serve?” What comes up when you say that?

 

In the irony of all ironies, it is the question How may I serve? that actually saves us from feeling lost and which also moves us forward in life.

 

4 Ways You Can Answer the Question: How May I Serve?

1) Find something you are passionate about and give back. For me, it is helping kids with special needs. I offer them free yoga. I hold fundraisers, I donate proceeds from my t-shirts. Whatever it is, find something you are passionate about and volunteer your time, money or voice. It doesn’t have to be big. It can literally be a posting on Facebook.

Click here to keep reading and please leave comment on actual MindBodyGreen post. Keep manifesting xo jen

manifesting, Wayne Dyer

Hanging with Wayne Dyer in Atlanta.

April 14, 2012

With God all things are possible. 

Wayne talked of this a lot today. Now, I have heard him speak a lot. But today this got me. A chill ran through my body, as it does more and more lately. A sign that I am paying attention to what resonates. Or that more is resonated lately? That I am connecting to things I am meant to be connecting to more often?

All of the above.

And then some.

All. Things. Possible.

So what does that leave out?

NOTHING.

I love this.

I had that feeling today as I sat there in the second row as a guest of the author, my sister Rachel on my side. All the Dyers and Anita Moorjani and her husband wearing my blue Manifestation bracelets. Sara Blakely, founder of SPANX and the world’s youngest billionaire wearing my Manifestation bracelet.

Why?

Because: Anything is possible.

I dreamed this.

Over and over.

This is the life I want.

I want to be inspiring people on the level of Wayne and Anita and Sara. So why should I not be hanging out with them?

I told Wayne about my retreat to Maui next February and asked him if he would come over and talk to my group. He said “Anything is possible. Why not?

Ha! Wayne at my retreat? Pinch me.

(Who knows what will happen but… anything is possible kids.)

He told a great story today which I loved. He had just led a retreat on a cruise ship and he had asked everyone to go out and stare at the wake from the ship. He asked them to contemplate the wake. ( I feel a poem being inspired here already.)

The wake is the trail the ship leaves behind.

3 questions he told them to ask themselves:

1) What is the wake? Answer: the trail.

2)What is driving the boat? Answer: the PRESENT moment energy being generated is driving the boat. ( Key word: Present. Obviously.)

3) Is it possible for the wake to drive the boat? Answer: NO.

He suggested that most of us live this illusion though. The wake driving the boat! Ha!

I had such a breakthrough today. That kind of aha moment that happens before inspiration sinks in and kicks you in the teeth.

I think it is the poet in me that loves a good metaphor but, wow, is it ever an opportunity to give up your personal history, your crap, your story, when it is put so succinctly. So simply. So truthfully.

Another gem from today: Inspiration is when an idea gets ahold of you.

Motivation is ego driven.

Now that is something to think about.

I’d much rather be inspired.

As I am now in my life.

An idea has gotten a hold of me and I am being channeled. This is the best way, the only way I can truly describe my life these days.

Today Wayne said: writing is not something I do. It is what I am.

How beautiful a sentiment is that?

He talked so much about the “I Am” and I was so happy to be wearing my ” I am” Conscious Ink tattoo ( I gave him some and he went wild for them!)

Wayne talked about Divine Love as never changing, never varying.

There was so much to process today that it will take a few blog posts. Heck, a few years, but I wanted to share with you some inspiration and highlights.

Anita Moorjani, whom has become a friend, got up and spoke. She had a Near Death Experience after having Stage 4 cancer.  She came back because she has work to do. (Thank God she came back!)

Her message, to remind us all to be ourselves, is simple and IMPORTANT. She says more important than being positive is being yourself!

Her book Dying To Be Me has been called, by many, the most important book they have ever read. Wayne is a huge fan of Anita, as am I. She is so incredible, as is this work she is doing. Please take a moment and read my earlier interview with her.

She will change your life. As she says, remember your magnificence.

My dear friend Anita Moorjani. Please buy her book “Dying To Be Me”. It will change your life. Seriously. Go!

As usual my friend Skye sang (Wayne’s daughter.) She added Whitney Houston’s Greatest Love of All which made everyone bawl, of course. Saje Dyer also got up and spoke. She is Wayne’s youngest. Adorable and hilarious. She talked (spontaneously) about how she healed herself at age 5 or 6 with a child’s belief system. It was so beautiful and funny and impromptu. Another Dyer with a big inspiring future in front of her.

Sommer Dyer was also there, who will be guest posting very soon on my blog. Wait until you read this Dyer daughter’s post. She is very special to me.

Sommer Dyer, Saje Dyer, me , my sister Rachel, Skye Dyer

I met Tracy, his eldest and bought a purse from her amazing company Urban Junket. Tracy is gorgeous and funny. It’s like there is something in the water they drink? Tracy creates purses from recycled water bottles. Hello, Awesome!

My sister and I each bought one. Get one. They are cute and support the Earth. Hello, More Awesome!

Lastly, Sara Blakely. The world’s youngest billionaire and founder of Spanx. She got up and said a few words about how Wayne had been a great inspiration to her and was one of the reasons she is so successful. I gave her my blue Manifestation bracelet which you can see in the photos and my Manifesting tee. She was talking to us forever. To say she is cool would be an UNDERSTATEMENT.

The coolest billionaire I ever met.

And she is manifesting, no less.

Bam!

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Wayne and Sara Blakely are so funny! They are showing off their Spanx! ha!

My dad and his other daughters. Hee hee.
Saje, Sommer, Wayne and Skye Dyer.

Tracy Dyer and I. I am holding up my Urban Junket bag. Recycled Water Bottles. Bad-ass!!!

My buddy Skye Dyer and I. She sings so beautifully.

Skye singing on stage with her dad. So moving.

Saje got called up. Surprise!
She was funny and inspiring.
You can heal yourself with LOVE, she says.
This girl rocks so hard.

So here it is:

I am manifesting:

Sara Blakely sponsoring my sister’s One Small Step Walk for Prader Wille Syndrome and doing a q&a on this blog, as Wayne did.

Wayne Dyer definitely coming to my Maui retreat next February. It’s happening folks. I see it. Book early as we will go deep and it will be intimate. (click here to sign up.)

Wayne writing the foreword for my book.

Writing for Oprah.com

 

 

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Q & A Series, Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer! My Beloved Teacher Visits The Manifestation Q&A Series. A Dream Come True.

February 8, 2012

Welcome to The Manifestation Q&A Series.

 I am Jennifer Pastiloff and this series is designed to introduce the world to someone I find incredible. Someone who is manifesting their dreams on a daily basis.

Someone like Wayne Dyer.

The greatest day of my life is here! My beloved Wayne Dyer is visiting us for a short q&a.

 Pinch me?

My inspiring friend Karen Salmasohn designed these posters especially for this day. Check her out at notsalmon.com

Wayne Dyer is THE reason I call my company “Manifestation Yoga.” When I started to achieve success as a yoga teacher very early on in my career people would ask how it was that I made such profound changes in my life so quickly. How so many amazing things kept showing up for me, from being on Good Morning America and traveling around the world with sold out retreats/workshops or becoming a writer for Positively Positive. As Wayne says: it is not our job to ask “how” or “when” but to say YES! 

That is just what I did.

I do not think all of this happened because of Wayne Dyer but I do know that he was the most powerful teacher I could have ever prayed for. (And, to be clear, I did pray for a teacher.)

He showed up in my life exactly when I needed him to, as the teacher will do when the student is ready.

His talented and inspiring daughter Skye, who happens to be my dear friend, will be doing music for my upcoming yoga/life dvd so I did a Q&A with her in December. In it, I mentioned that my dream was to have her father do a Q&A.

Guess what? Ask for what you want and be prepared when it shows up.

And most definitely, honor your worthiness to receive.

I have Dr. Dyer on my vision board (of course.) I have thanked the Universe in advance daily for this opportunity.

I could go on and on about Dr. Dyer. How he is a father figure for me, how I listen to him talk about his children and how it humanizes him. How his humor gets me through some dark days (you will see some of his silly humor below). How I have learned to “let it be” and find the G-d within from his words. How I have relearned to believe in miracles. How I have cultivated a meditation practice despite the difficulty I have because of my tinnitus. (I will save that all for my book dedicated to him and my deceased father, Melvin Pastiloff.)

Dear Manifesters, the proof is in the pudding. Here I am, interviewing my beloved Dr Dyer. I have manifested my greatest dream.

I am humbled.

I live my life by the mantra “ How May I Serve?” yet another thing I have learned from Dr. Dyer.

Because of him, I decided to forego a traditional wedding and donate all my money from my wedding (in lieu of gifts) to Haiti after their earthquake. I do my best to let others shine their light. What I love about this man is that he is doing the very same! By him being here today, he has asked “How May I Serve?” and in doing so, he is enabling me to have my own dream come true. I have seen him do this more times than I can count, by the way. In fact, one of my other guests, Anita Moorjani, my friend who wrote the amazing book “Dying To Be Me” was introduced to me via Wayne Dyer.

He picks up inspiring people he believes and lets the world get to know them.

I will stop raving now.

Come to one of my Manifestation Workshops/retreats or the Tadasana Festival in Santa Monica on Earth Day weekend. if you want more Wayne Dyer quotes or inspirations or read one of my Positively Positive articles.

I got more Wayne. 

I got tons more on Wayne Dyer, the man who helped me change my life and discover my bliss.

(Do you think I am too old to be adopted by him?)

Jen, Wayne and Jen's friend Tara Berro.

Jennifer Pastiloff: What are you most proud to have manifested in your life?

Wayne Dyer: The divine love in my heart.

Jennifer Pastiloff: What is your favorite part of having Skye sing on stage with you? Having lost my dad at age 8, I could not stop sobbing the first time I saw you two up there together. That feeling from that first night I saw you both live in Santa Monica is still with me.

Wayne Dyer: She brings her supreme talent to my audience along with her gracious and loving personality, which I feel so proud to watch.

Jennifer Pastiloff: I am so moved by the forgiveness you have shown toward your father. Forgiveness is something I struggle with often. The last thing I ever said to my dad was “ I hate you.” What would you say helped you the most in forgiving your father? What would you also say in regards to someone who is struggling with forgiving themselves?I know when I do ‘Forgiveness” themed meditations in my Manifestation Workshops, they are the most powerful. People are the usually most moved when I ask them to meditate on forgiving themselves.

Wayne Dyer: I was sent by forces bigger than all of us to his grave for the purpose of forgiveness, even though I wasn’t aware of it. Forgiveness is for yourself and not for the other person, it clears your soul of rage and that is why its so important to forgive.

Jennifer Pastiloff: I have a list of “rules”. See below. What would some of Wayne Dyer’s be?

Wayne Dyer: I live by the Tao, a man of the Tao is kind to the kind and kind to the unkind because kindness is his nature.

Jennifer Pastiloff: In my workshops I have people share with the room, and in writing, what it is they are manifesting in their lives. I may be wrong, and please correct me if I am, but I thought I have read that you suggest to keep what you are manifesting private. I go back and forth. Suggestions?

Wayne Dyer: It’s absolutely crucial to keep it private because that keeps the ego out of the process. My feelings are: Don’t explain, Don’t complain.

Another by the lovely notsalmon.com

Jennifer Pastiloff: What is the greatest lesson you have learned from your kids?

Wayne Dyer: Don’t have any more. Just kidding.

I used all ‘S’ names and I should have used “Stop” for the first one.. Only joking.

Having children gives you an opportunity to truly experience divine love which is no matter what they do or who they are or what they choose, you still always love them.

Jennifer Pastiloff:  I guess I will have to change my name to “Sennifer” to be adopted by you then.

My sister Rachel, whose one son has Prader Willi Syndrome asked me to ask you the following: How does one continue to manifest your dreams while being a parent? I recall you saying children will challenge your worthiness to receive the most, somewhat facetiously, of course.

Wayne Dyer: Parents are not for learning. They make learning unnecessary. Manifest your dreams by letting your children manifest theirs.

Jennifer Pastiloff: Do you practice yoga? (When are you coming to one of my classes, ahem? It’s NOT Bikram!)

Wayne Dyer: Yes, I practice Bikram yoga everyday. Maybe one day I will come to one of your classes 🙂

(Note from Jen: Yay! Yay! Yay!)

Jennifer Pastiloff: Gratitude is the greatest force In my life. Most of my classes are set to this theme. If you could say thank you right now, who would it be to?

Wayne Dyer: I thank everyday the “I am” presence that is located within me. I am in a state of gratitude for the “I am” presence that is the life that is in my body.

Jennifer Pastiloff: One of the things I love most about you is your humor and the fact that you seemingly do not take yourself too seriously (Note from Jen: After reading this you will indeed believe that this amazing man does NOT take himself too seriously at all. What a gift!).

I have a “rule” in my yoga class which is “ if you fall you must laugh”. You are not allowed to take yourself seriously in my room. Being mostly deaf I have learned to laugh at myself in a way that has surprised even me sometimes, because the alternative was to feel sorry for myself. And that, I believe, is my ego at work. What part does humor play in your life? When is the last time you have laughed at yourself?

Wayne Dyer: One of the most important lessons I have learned is to not take yourself too seriously. Yes, that is the work of the ego.

I laugh at myself everyday.

Jennifer Pastiloff:  Based on your answers I can tell you laugh at yourself daily and I love that balance. I absolutely cherished the film “The Shift.” ( I knew I wanted to be on ‘The Ellen Show’ (currently working on getting my Karaoke Yoga on there as we speak) but when I saw her wife Portia in your film, it was a done deal! When I found out you married them I almost fell out of my seat.) Can we expect any more films from you soon?

Wayne Dyer: I have a new film, My Greatest Teacher, which is based on a series of miracles that occurred and brought me to my father’s grave, which is where I learned forgiveness. I have a mind that is open to all things and attached to nothing so anything could happen, including another film.

Jennifer Pastiloff: Can you tell us about your latest book?

Wayne Dyer: Wishes Fulfilled, my latest book, is about understanding spiritual manifestation; you manifest what you are rather than what you find is missing in your life.

Jennifer Pastiloff: I am writing a book on how I manifested my dreams and overcame depression and adversities like hearing loss. I am struggling. Any tips on the writing process from someone who has written so many books?

Wayne Dyer: Writing is not what I do, writing is what I am. It is how I express my whole humanity.

Jennifer Pastiloff: Did you finally get a computer? I remember you saying you wrote your books by hand.

Wayne Dyer: I have an iPad (which I am using to write this) and the thing I like most about it is the trash button. Anything that comes at me that I don’t want to hear, I just push trash and then delete.

I am trying to figure out a way to get one of those in my real life.

I am still writing my books by hand though.

Jennifer Pastiloff: How has meditation changed your life?

Wayne Dyer: Herman Melville said ” God’s one and only voice is silence”. Meditation allowed me to make conscious contact with God.

The incredible Robert Sturman captures me in silence. Malibu 2012.

Jennifer Pastiloff: What do you think the 5 greatest keys to the manifesting process are?

Wayne Dyer: I don’t think linear and I don’t think numerically. The only key to manifesting is staying connected to your source of being, which is the author of all things.

Jennifer Pastiloff: Everytime I see you, I am amazed at how great you look. As if you are ageless. Can you tell us about this? I know we all die, of course, but I am fascinated by the idea that everything about how we live is a choice. As you say, you can be miserable or motivate yourself, the choice is yours. I look at you and see someone so vibrant and full of life.

Wayne Dyer: At my essence I am birthless, deathless, and changeless, that is who I am. This body I am in is just a container for my formless soul.

Jennifer Pastiloff: How is your health now? What has the journey been like since you were diagnosed with leukemia?

Wayne Dyer: I am perfect health. I am well.

Jennifer Pastiloff: One of the things that shifted my life the most was when you spoke of Manifesting at your Santa Monica talk and gave us 7 steps. You said one of them was “ Does It feel natural to you?” I thought about my prior career as an actor and realized that it had never felt natural. What I am doing now does. I cannot imagine another life, nor a life without you as my teacher. How and when did you discover this principle?

Wayne Dyer: Generally speaking something not feeling natural means you feel unworthy of what you would like to attract into your life. It doesn’t feel natural for a person who has always been poor to feel prosperous. Drug addicts can’t picture themselves free of their addiction, but our natural state is one of well being and unlimited potential.

Jennifer Pastiloff: What are you manifesting in 2012?

Wayne Dyer: A four hour erection but I am consulting my doctor.

Just kidding.

I am manifesting experiential awareness of divine love!

Thank you Jen.

Jennifer Pastiloff: Thank you, Dr. Dyer. I love you.

At 72 years young this man still has a sense of humor like no one else and a life energy and force to be admired. I love you Wayne!

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Jen’s “rules”:

1. Be Kind.

2. Have a sense of humor especially when it comes to yourself

3. Write poems, even if only in your head

4. Sing out loud, even if badly

5. Dance

6. If you don’t have anything nice to say… you know the deal

7. Find things to be in awe of

8. Be grateful for what you have right now .

9. Watch Modern Family, read Wayne Dyer, and end every complaint with “But I’m so blessed!”

10. Duh, do yoga

11. Don’t worry. Everyone on Facebook seems like they have happier and funner lives. They don’t.

12. Tell someone you love that you love them. Right now.

13.. Take more pictures.

14. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. no such thing.

15. Thank the Universe in advance.

You can see why I love this man so much. Not only is he enlightened but he is  funny and silly! I will be seeing him and Anita Moorjani, and of course the lovely Skye Dyer in San Jose March 17th. Join me!

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